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We have read the book, brought the t-shirt and can now invest our hard earned cash in the pleasure products as wielded by Christian in the Erotic explosion that is Shades Of Grey. The complete pleasure collection includes, bondage kits, butt plugs, anal beads, whips, paddles and vibrators, the list is pretty exhaustive (or exhausting). The Official collection has been endorsed by none other than E L James herself (although I would have loved to be a fly on the wall when she was analysing butt plugs).
The products seem to be of a high quality and have been designed in ‘signature shades’ of black & silver. The Shades Of Grey logo features on the toys with script highlighting significant parts of text on the vibrators. All in all the project has clearly been handled well and given the popularity of the book has probably generated sales when a perfectly good sex toy can be brought for half the price without the Shades Of Grey association.
Couples all over the Country are no doubt playing Christian & Ana behind the bedroom curtains, re-enacting the saucy scenes. Of course the book is the manual so if you fancy indulging in some intimate play but are unsure of where to start dig into the pages of the erotic read and pick up some pointers!
Jamie Catto was the founding member of Faithless in the 1990′s, a band that became a significant part of the dance culture of the time. As the years have passed Jamie has grown and developed his ‘out of the box’ approach to life and has become the ‘creative catalyst, producer and founder of the music and film production company ‘one giant leap’. In addition Catto travels the world delivering motivational workshops ‘what about me?’ that inspire and provoke, releasing the hidden potential inside the listeners and driving them forward on the creative process.
How does all this tie in with intimacy?
Jamie has extended his skills to delving into the emotional and intimate connections of couples (and singles) in order to produce fruitful and healthy bonds on a very deep level. The ‘What about intimacy courses’ involve a weekend of attendance and require an open mind and heart to fully benefit from the guidance and tuition of Jamie and his partner Raisa. Couples learn and share together, broaching subjects of empowerment, vunaribility and taking responsibility for their role of the relationship. At a time when couples can easily experience distance amidst crazy schedules and home lives, a course that takes you away from the manic and quiets the mind for exploration can only be a good thing. If you want to join Jamie on this journey of Intimate discoveryhis next course is on March 30th and is £125 per person for the weekend book here for the course http://www.jamiecatto.com/intimacy
In order to understand how to use a dildo it is necessary to define the product. A dildo is a non vibrating phallic shaped sex toy that is used for penetration. This definition still encompasses a great deal of variety but the dildo requires you to do more of the work than other sex toys, lets say it’s a more interactive choice.
Our first suggestion is to team your toy with a personal lubricant for ease of use. You may find that the vagina feels dryer than usual when inserting a dildo and applying a little lubricant to the tip and shaft will make entry feel comfortable (and you feel relaxed). Try not to use a silicone lubricant with a silicone product as the material could degrade, apart from that choose your lube according to how much extra wetness you feel is necessary for a pleasurable experience.
With lubrication and relaxation in mind we would recommend beginning any session with foreplay. Whereas a clitoral vibrator can just be placed at the point of stimulation and off you go, inserting a phallus requires a little preparation. If you own a bullet vibrator try reclining for a little clitoral massage in order to raise arousal and relax the body. If you are using a dildo as a couple embark on your usual technique for turning on your partner before attempting to insert the toy.
There are a few helpful points to consider when using a dildo. Firstly the girth of your toy is more important than the length. It is the width of the shaft that stimulates the vaginal walls and given that the first third of the vagina is the most sensitive, inserting a lengthy dildo up to the hilt may not be the fastest route to pleasure. Many women report that stimulating the G Spot enables an intense orgasm and aids overall arousal. If you want to use a dildo at the ‘G’ choose a shaft with a curved tip as concentrating stimulation against the vaginal wall will be far more effective.
Once you are relaxed and reasonably aroused gently insert the tip of the dildo and steadily insert the shaft. Keeping to the first third of the vagina will provide the best sensation. Using an in and out motion is a common method of stimulation or a smaller massaging motion against the vaginal wall in the direction of the g spot.
Many women report that they use a dildo simply for a fuller feeling during clitoral massage. This tends to be effective with a large dildo as the girth gives an extended pressure to the vaginal walls that heightens the stimulated nerves from clitoral massage. Remember that the web of nerves runs far and wide from the clitoral nub thereby a penetrative toy can enhance orgasm without needing to move inside the vagina. Simply insert your dildo, maintaining a position that keeps it in place and use your clitoral vibrator – we bet you feel the difference in arousal …read more
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Sex is a sensitive subject and the thought of discussing areas of sexual concern with a stranger can seem an awkward proposition. Guilt, embarrassment, shame, avoidance and fear can all rear their heads when considering sex therapy, as well as the thought that ‘people like us’ don’t need to seek help from outside the relationship. In truth we all need a little help sometimes and denying a problem is never going to make the situation better. Whether you are suffering from a chronic lack of desire or the psychological effects of a physical problem a therapist can explore ways in which to move forward with a positive programme of action. Although every relationship has a distinctly unique dynamic we look at 5 common reasons why couples seek sex therapy.
Orgasm Problems – It is particularly common for young women to seek help with the inability to orgasm. In some cases the remedy is to educate couples about where to stimulate in order to build to female climax. A program of manual and oral stimulation methods concentrated at the clitoris can help to rectify orgasm problems.
Loss Of Desire – When experiencing a chronic lack of sexual desire it can be very difficult to speak with a stranger about how you are feeling. Whether your lack of libido stems from boredom, stress, physical problems, illness or tiredness the resulting resentment can quickly build up in a relationship when one person doesn’t feel motivated to make love. Relate reports that loss of desire is more common in women than men but that three quarters of women who sought therapy enjoyed sex more after the program. Differing libido’s inside a relationship can create distance and the longer sex isn’t on the menu the harder it is to bond both physically and mentally.
Children – Before kids there is often ample time for intimacy yet post family both partners inside a relationship can feel disinclined to continue with the sex life they once enjoyed. The emotional and psychological impact of having children can negatively effect our sexual experience. Motherhood can alter how you perceive your sexual self or how your partner sees you. Finding time for sex can be nigh on impossible and getting out of the habit of love making is a common problem for couples with young families. Tiredness, stress and financial worries can all stem from starting a family, none of which are conducive to a happy sex life.
Infidelity – Repairing a relationship after an affair is a complex matter. Inevitably there will be issues surrounding sex that many couples will need help to resolve after an instance of infidelity. Feelings of betrayal and issues of trust can seem insurmountable obstacles to regaining a sex life after an affair. A therapist can help in rebuilding trust, allowing a space to vent anger and providing techniques to address fundamental issues in the relationship in order to move forward with improved levels of communication.
It has been reported that only 23% of Women would like a traditional gift at Valentine’s and most of us need more quality ‘intimate’ time as couples, therefore we have five suggestions that you can both enjoy and will definitely love.
Lelo Adore Me Pleasure Set
A collection of Lelo’s delectable pleasure accessories presented in an adorable gift set. The aesthetics of this sensual gift set are amazing with a sturdy ‘keepsake’ box and outer card with perfect Valentine ready pouty red lips. Inside the Adore Me set is the Intima Silk Blindfold and Sutra Chain link cuffs for light and sensual bondage play. The cuffs and blindfold are the perfect combination of suede and silk for skin tingling sensation. Deny your lover’s sight and restrain them in the perfect position for pleasing. Lelo Mia 2 has twice the power of the previous model with a tapered ‘lipstick’ style tip designed for sensational clitoral massage. Begin the evening by trailing the silk ties along your lovers profile before securing the blindfold and tying your lovers hands to the bed. Engage the stimulating power of Mia and treat your lady to the most amazing intimate massage ever.
Screaming O StudiO Gift Set
The StudiO Collection from Screaming O is a range of ladies intimate massagers and accessories that are discreet, elegant and deeply pleasurable. The Gift Set contains 4 vibrators under the guise of a lipstick, mascara, blusher brush and compact bullet. Alongside the clitoral vibrators are orgasm inducing creams, gels and even a cosmetic bag to keep them all together. The StudiO gift set is perfect for the hard working woman in your life that deserves something extra special and believe me will take pride of place.
Bijoux Indiscrets Coffret Bling Bling
It may sound a bit of a mouthful but the Coffret Bling Bling set has the ingredients for an intimate evening that encourages wicked tickle and tease. Bijoux Indiscrets is always gift ready and the contents of the bling bling set is the perfect accompaniment to an evening of physical discovery and intimate couples time.
The soft feather is made for trailing over silky, sensitive skin. The shimmering body dust is completely edible for sprinkling over intimate areas before disappearing under the flick of the tongue. Before you indulge your lover to the physical treats restrain them with the glamorous feather cuffs for irresistible Valentine’s night foreplay.
Jimmyjane Natural Massage Oil Candle
For a simple yet all round addition to foreplay and sensual relaxation, the gift of a massage candle is a welcome and elegant offering. What lady doesn’t love the scent and glow of a candle’s flicker in the bedroom? Add to this the warm, luxurious pool that can be drizzled onto the skin and massaged into the skin, leaving it silky smooth. The massage candle is a couple’s <img class="size-medium wp-image-964 alignright" alt="jimmy-jane-truffle-and-gardenia-massage-candle_cms_site_products_images_7280-3-281637_250_400_True" src="http://www.boudoirsextoys.co.uk/theparlour/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/jimmy-jane-truffle-and-gardenia-massage-candle_cms_site_products_images_7280-3-281637_250_400_True-187×300.jpg" …read more
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We love the research and infographic that Lelo have produced to illustrate the recent beginnings of what they term a female sexual revolution. The Shades of grey phenomena has brought the demands of women to the fore & if you can find a copy of a book containing the words Dildos & and cock next to the biscuits in Waitrose something strange is certainly going on. A sexual revolution? Lets hope and pray that ladies continue to enjoy the pleasures instigated by Mr Grey and here are Lelo’s findings to enjoy!
If you are in the City for a weekend break why not focus on some seductive sight seeing to make the most of the expensive Hotel for the evening.
Lingerie Shopping – Shopping for seductive lingerie can be a real turn on. Our favourite lingerie store is Agent Provocateur who has the most alluring bedroom outfits for couples looking to turn up the heat. Shop together for an evenings entertainment and whilst you are there grab some sexual enhancers for a little toe tingling extra.
Sex Toy Shopping – There are lots of female friendly sex shops for couples looking for a few adult themed accessories for a weekend away in London. Try Sh Women Store a sex shop that caters for women or Coco De Mer a very upmarket sex toy seller that will add a touch of luxury to any adult purchase.
Arrange for sexy room service – Lobster thermadore, Champagne and Strawberries or Smoked Salmon on blinis, arrange for room service to be delivered on silver platters and stay in your room for an evening of steamy seduction.
Dress for cocktails – Go for glamour and dress for cocktails in a sultry bar. Meet your partner for some exciting concoctions and move on to more interesting combinations when back at your room